MOMENTUM: Making Waves in Sexuality, Feminism and Relationships

Presenter News 11/16/11

Tess — Wed, 16 Nov 2011 21:48:43 +0000

Say Happy Birthday to presenter, Jaclyn Friedman and join her for a combo 40th birthday blow out and book launch party for her new book, What You Really Really Want; The Smart Girl’s Shame-Free Guide to Sex and Safety on Sunday, November 20th at 7PM at Fontana’s, which just happens to be one of your organizers’ favorite NYC haunts.

Today also finds Tammy Nelson and Bill Taverner in the news. Tammy talks about affair-proofing your marriage over at Huffington Post and Bill is quoted in the New York Times piece, Teaching Good Sex.

More Presenter News

Tess — Sun, 13 Nov 2011 17:11:05 +0000

On November 7th we linked to a piece written by Nadia West for Good Vibrations Magazine. After her assailant commented on her post, identifying himself in the process, Good Vibrations took the post down. Thanks to Kitty Stryker, you can read Nadia’s original piece on PurrVersatility.

Nadia West, a panelist on Being the Change you Want to See: Helping Stem the Tide of Silence about Sexual Abuse in Sex-Positive Communities,discusses this very important issue today in ~~Good Vibrations Magazine~~ PurrVersatility in her post What to Do When Sex-Negative Actions Happen in Sex-Positive Communities? (link has been updated). Get a heads up on what will be discussed in her MOMENTUM session by reading this excellent post.

Presenter News – Call for Submissions for Senior Sex Anthology

Tess — Tue, 08 Nov 2011 19:13:09 +0000

Presenter and author of Naked at Our Age and Better Than I Ever Expected, Joan Price, has a call out for submissions for a senior sex anthology to be published by Seal. Submissions aren’t due until February 1, 2012 so you have plenty of time to get your writing on. Joan will consider stories from the soft and romantic to the kinky and edgy (yay!) as long as they demonstrate high quality writing and have an interesting plot and alluring characters.

Details follow:

(11/1/11: I’m bringing this Call for Submissions to the top again to remind you to send me your complete contact info if you’d like to submit a story or personal essay to this anthology. The submission isn’t due until February, but I’d like your contact info ahead. Thanks! I’ve also added some updates.)

Joan Price is seeking erotic stories and memoir essays of high literary quality from writers over age 50, featuring steamy characters also over age 50, for a senior erotica anthology to be published Spring 2013 by Seal Press.

Will this be your typical erotica anthology with a few wrinkles?

No, the truth is that we seniors don’t respond to the sopping-wet panties and rock-hard erections that are the hallmark of traditional, youth-oriented erotica. Instead, we want erotica that we can relate to, that encompasses the changes and adaptations of age, that acknowledges how we like to be stimulated. Age is accepted, celebrated, and sensually enjoyed.

Characters may be having spicy sex with partners they love and have loved for decades; or with new loves or casual encounters; or solo with hands, vibrators, memories, and fantasies. Although I admit my bias towards erotica that is tender and loving, I’m also looking for edgy and kinky stories for a balanced collection.

Seal Press and I will choose submissions of high literary quality, not just good, explicit sex scenes. Arouse us with a sexy, well-crafted

plot we haven’t read before, characters who entice us and feel real to us, language that describes sex in a new way. I welcome diversity of all kinds, including race, ethnic background, gender identification, sexual orientation, disability, and every other kind of diversity.

Word length: 1,500-3,000 words, previously unpublished preferred.

Payment: $100 on acceptance and 2 copies of the book on publication.

Submission deadline: February 1, 2012 (earlier submissions preferred). Please submit Word document, double-spaced, Times or Times New Roman font. Authors may submit up to 2 contributions.

Before you submit (right now would be good!), please email me at SeniorErotica@gmail.com with the header “senior erotica submission” and include your 75-100-word author bio written in the third person and complete contact information: legal name, pseudonym if applicable, mailing address, email address, and phone. Please include your age, also (which won’t be public unless you want it to be). I’ll put you in my database of potential contributors and update you as the project progresses.

Please feel free to copy and forward.

Thank you!

Joan Price

9/22/11 update: I’m receiving submissions already — thank you! I’d prefer the sex scenes to take place at the characters’ current age (over 50, 60, 70…). A story or two with flashbacks to younger years is fine, but I’m getting too many youthful flashbacks and too few current-age erotic scenes. What makes a story sexy and arousing at our age? That’s your challenge!

10/4/11: Please read this new post updating what I’m seeking — even if you already submitted your story.

11/1/11: I know it’s tempting to write about older characters having sex with impossibly attractive, young partners, and yes, it’s ok if you’ve written a truly fabulous story in that vein — but I’d love to see more stories about older characters who are wildly attracted to each other and have amazing sex together. Let’s show our youth-oriented culture (and ourselves!) that we’re sexy at this age, too.

Presenters Making Waves

Tess — Mon, 07 Nov 2011 21:21:42 +0000

It’s a busy day for our fabulous presenters as they go about creating the kind of change we all want to see and making the world a better, more sex-positive, place to live.

Nadia West, a panelist on Being the Change you Want to See: Helping Stem the Tide of Silence about Sexual Abuse in Sex-Positive Communities, discusses this very important issue today in Good Vibrations Magazine in her post What to Do When Sex-Negative Actions Happen in Sex-Positive Communities? Get a heads up on what will be discussed in her MOMENTUM session by reading this excellent post.

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Want to learn about desire and getting the sex you really want all from the comfort of your couch? And get 5 AASECT CE’s while you learn? Presenter Tammy Nelson joins Gina Odgen for their semi-annual teleseminar series resuming on Wed., Nov 9, at noon ET - with all new material. Remember that you can join any time, because all sessions are recorded, so you can download them and listen when it is convenient for you

This telesemenar is engaging and interactive, filled with exercises and techniques, and designed as an introduction for students and new therapists as well as a lively and nuanced refresher for seasoned therapists.

The Return of Desire – Getting the Sex You Want

A Teleseminar for Health Professionals

Fall, 2011, Five Wednesdays

Approved for 5 AASECT CEs

Gina Ogden, PhD, LMFT www.GinaOgden.com

& Tammy Nelson, PhD, LPC www.DrTammyNelson.com

All sessions meet by telephone from 12:00-1:00 pm US Eastern Time. Call-in numbers provided on registration. Call from anywhere in the world. All registrants immediately receive downloads of sessions, so you can participate even if you cannot attend in person.

Session 1-Nov 9: Dynamics of Sexual Desire…

Session 2-Nov 16: Imago Techniques for Couples…

Session 3-Nov 30: Menopause and Andropause…

Session 4-Dec 7: Breathing, Imagining, Visualization for Pleasure…

Session 5-Dec 14: Poly, Kink, and Other Edgy Subjects…

Entire series: $250 (student rate available)

CLICK HERE TO REGISTER

Or contact Dr. Tammy Nelson at tammy@tammynelson.org or 203-438-3007

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Presenter and author Jaclyn Friedman has a must read article on Jezebel today. So go and read an excerpt below and then head over to Jezebel to read The Trouble with ‘It Just Happened‘ in its entirety.

“It just happened” is incredibly common when it comes to sexual relationships. It’s also the enemy of what you really really want.  When we say “it just happened” (and we don’t mean “I was incredibly drunk or high or asleep and therefore not aware enough of my surroundings to have actively participated,” which is sexual assault, not sex), what we’re doing is denying responsibility for our sexual and romantic decisions. That can feel pretty appealing, especially if you’re not comfortable with your sexuality or don’t believe you deserve pleasure and safety. If we imagine that sex and relationships “just happen” to us, that they’re really beyond our control, then we can’t be blamed for anything that goes wrong, or shamed for being the sexual people we are, or feel embarrassed for wanting satisfaction.

More Presenter News for the 6th of November

Tess — Sun, 06 Nov 2011 23:02:27 +0000

Want to know how to fight fair in a marriage and if you can maintain privacy within your relationship? Over at AOL, closing keynote plenary presenter, marriage and family therapist and author of Mating in Captivity, Esther Perel, shares her thoughts.

Presenter News – November 6th

Tess — Sun, 06 Nov 2011 17:57:29 +0000

Awesome and ever so sweet presenter, Francisco Ramirez, joins VJ Fixx and takes part in MTV’s Vox Pop talking to the people where they are, in the street, about one night stands. Stay tuned till the end to see Francisco getting his glorious groove on. Don’t be shy, Francisco, what New Yorker hasn’t had sex at The St. Marks Hotel?

Presenter News

Tess — Sat, 05 Nov 2011 15:16:04 +0000

Have you seen Abiola Abrams talking to author of Falling For Me, Anna David, about sexuality and feminism?

If you haven’t you should. And you can. By watching below.

Presenter News – Teleseminar with Esther Perel and Tammy Nelson!

Tess — Mon, 31 Oct 2011 21:21:18 +0000

Eros & Psychotherapy:
Love, Sex, and Power in Relationships

Five Session Teleclass with Esther Perel and Tammy Nelson

There is still space left!
Register now and join us for the
first class tomorrow, Tuesday, Nov. 1!!

Teleclasses are seminars you attend on the telephone live, or download to listen at your convenience. Earn CEUs or attend for your own professional or personal development. Hear the newest in research and clinical experience, learn skills to apply to your practice, listen at your leisure—all for a price within your budget!

Cost: $249 total, approved for 5 AASECT CE credits
Five Tuesdays: November 1, 8, 15, 22, 29, 2011
2-3pm Eastern Time

A new and provocative approach to working with couples using creative interventions for commonly seen emotional and sexual predicaments in therapy. Two of the world’s most forward thinkers on sexuality and relationships join together again to offer participants the opportunity to heal their own relationships and those of their clients.

Participants can earn CEs, download recordings at their leisure and request personalized case consultation on treatment dilemmas.

Week 1— Sex is never just sex; inside the potent mix of emotional deprivation, power dynamics and personal histories

Week 2— Maintaining an emotional and erotic connection outside the bedroom — and re-entering the conflict-ridden bed; after children, after life changes

Week 3— Learn creative and effective ways to help couples confront and change emotional and sexual stalemates.

Week 4— The Power Struggle in the Bedroom — If I “give” it to him, She never “lets” me, If he does then I will — and how to stop keeping score

Week 5— Sex and sexuality: Men, women, straight & LGBT, and negotiating nonmonogamy — unique challenges and differential treatment

This applied clinical course includes didactic material, which draws from psychoanalytic and attachment theory, systemic and IMAGO therapy. Using case examples and experiential exercises, it addresses couples from all sexual orientations. The classes will be in English.

This program meets the requirements of the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors, and Therapists (AASECT) and is approved for 5 CE credits. These credits may be applied toward AASECT certification and renewal of AASECT certification.

Please register by clicking HERE.

Our Presenters in the News!

Tess — Fri, 28 Oct 2011 21:01:10 +0000

Today, Momentum’s presenters take on mainstream media’s contentions about sexuality and feminism making our hearts – and brains – swell.

Your Momentum organizers, here at the Crystal City Marriott for some conference preplanning, read Dr. Keith Ablow’s utterly ridiculous piece rehashing Toemaggedon 2011 for FoxNews (nearly enough said right there) and audibly groaned. Presenter Logan Levkoff took it further. She took it to Huffington Post with her insightful, must read article, Fox News Doctor: Perpetuating Homophobia and Misogyny, Again.

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Over at Feministing, Chloe Angyal counters USA Today’s contention that feminism is (once again) dead among young women in her piece Friday Feminist Fuck Yeah: Our Young Feminist Readers! Who Exist!

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Discuss amongst yourselves (consider using the Momentum Forums) this thread on exmormon.org and Tracy Clark-Flory’s Salon interview, Is Porn Ruining Our Love Lives, with keynote presenter Cindy Gallop.

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Momentum Presenters Make News

Tess — Thu, 27 Oct 2011 21:30:29 +0000

What are our presenters up to prior to MOMENTUM? Check this page to keep current with our very busy presenters as they work to bring about positive change into their worlds and yours.

Tammy Nelson, Ph.D. writes about how to avoid the three top honeymoon mistakes.

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Presenter Jaclyn Friedman, author of What You Really Really Want: The Smart Girl’s Shame-Free Guide to Sex and Safety (Seal Press) will be at Elliott Bay Book Shop on November 1, 2011 having a conversation about sex along with Scarleteen’s Heather Corinna. A must attend if you happen to be in the Seattle area. Details here.

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Stef Woods donned designer duds and walked in “Pink Rocks the Runway” to promote early detection of breast cancer. Stef talks about her experiences as a cancer survivor here.

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In her columns for Las Vegas Weekly, Lynn Comella asks whether Las Vegas has spawned the next Hugh Hefner and takes us on a brothel tour.

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